The above question may seem somewhat strange to you but when you live life from a perspective of curiosity and embrace uncertainty, you are free of worry.
We come into this incarnation with a program to move our spiritual progress forward. From my research into past lives and coming from a spiritual perspective I know that souls decide their life lessons before they return to this human existence. During their regressed state into a past life, volunteers were asked where, when, and why they had decided to reincarnate, to leave their state as a spiritual being and expose themselves to having yet another human experience.
The answers were quite consistent: since these souls wanted to grow in depth and skills, they needed the human experience with all its ups and downs. They asked other spirits to advise them what the best opportunities would be and where they could be found. They decided on the place, the lessons, and the people who would be their parents, teachers, friends and foes. In short, they came with a plan which would be for their highest good.
In conclusion I would like to say that we do have free will to do what we think is best for us but there is a guiding principle which kicks in when we wander too far off. I am living proof because I had very different plans for my life when I was young. What unfolded has come as a total surprise to me as a human being but not to my spirit. I can finally hear it when it tells me that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. If you want to read more in-depth about this, get my book “When Life Has Other Plans…Discover the Hidden Gifts”.